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"Sometimes I think the surest sign that intelligent life exists elsewhere in the universe is that none of it has tried to contact us." ~ Bill Watterson
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Lately, the hardest part about not having my mom around, for me, is understanding relationships with the opposite sex. It's not even a matter of 'I should have asked her this while she was alive' because at 25, I have so many questions that I just didn't have when I was 13. I can try to imagine what she might say, but it's really hard because once again, we never really got to talking about things like adult intimacy. Really though, I guess it's something that everybody needs to figure out with somebody else. You can't figure it out by yourself, which I guess brings me back to my original point. I REALLY wish my mom was around because I'm sure she would be able to give me good advice from a female perspective.
Because my perspective is every time I try to get close to somebody, for whatever reason, I get rejected. If it happens multiple times in a row, It's gotta be something with me, right? Or I guess it could all be circumstancial. But when is the 'right time' to start a relationship with someone? Maybe that's not what everybody wants. Maybe some people just want the other thing. Maybe that other thing is the driving motivation behind their behavior. Maybe that other thing is so intense that for some people, it just fulfills the same purpose as a relationship so they feel like they don't need anything else.
I don't know, I'm just making assumptions here. That's all you can do when nobody will talk to you about this shit, or when they keep shying away from you every time you try to get intimate. For my own part, I'm damn skippy that sex is not a relationship and it will never be a substitute for one. On the other side, trying to have an intimate relationship and not having sex with that person is missing part of the equation. I want both, not one or the other. Does that make me selfish?.......No. No it doesn't. It makes me human. I think anyone who has a relationship and doesn't have sex is denying a big part of themself and I think anybody who has sex with someone and says they aren't emotionally attached to them is deluding themself.